Years ago, while celebrating life with friends, many who were practicing feminists, the topic of male-female relations was sprung. On a historical basis, I believed that men educated within the rules of westernized capitalism (a system created by and for rich, white, male, landowners) paved the way for future men to benefit from oppertunities that women, past and present were unable to recieve.
It was my belief then that a solution for this problem was first, for the descendants of these white, male, landowners and 2nd men everywhere, to study, understand and acknowledge the historical role patriarchy has played in America and how the legacy of the situation still affects male and female relations today.
And once understanding the ways men have benefited from this adantage, work to advocate against it. I then pointed out however that though I was a male I was not of the particular male casstte that created and continues to give power to this trend. My casstte was illegally imported into the states or were already here but terrorized into submitting to this system of patriarchy alien to their natural order.
Because of this fact, my audiance who were descendants from this casste of terrorizors but who were also female, I asked of them, you must use the same solution applied to the patriarchy debate and apply it to your level of commitment in terms of healing the historical damages still affecting my casstte today. To me then, to me now, this is my definition of ally.
Which means looking twice at individuals you consider friends and family and making the hard choice of seperation once their hidden bigotry is revealed. Spoiler alert, if you play this game you will have far less friends than when you started. My name isn’t Wolfman but I gurantee it.